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5. Stop wanting to have more.

The Mantra of the Ego is “More”. The Ego is never satisfied. Never mind how much it conquers or achieves, Ego always insists it is still not enough. It pushes us to a continuous state of search and it eliminates the possibility of arrival. In truth, we are there already and the manner in which we choose to make use of the present moment is our decision. When you cease the need for more, the things you most desire most come to you. Without the attachment to more it is easier to share with others, as you understand how little you need in order to be satisfied and at peace.
The Universal Source is Happyness itself, it expands and creates new life constantly. It never creates obstacles to its own creations for selfish reasons. It creates and it lets go. When we end the ego’s need to have more we become one with the Source. Observe and appreciate all you receive, remember St Francis of Assisi powerful lesson: “It is giving that you receive”. When we allow abundance to shower us we align with the Source and we allow its flow.

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4. Stop feeling that you are Superior.

True nobility is not a matter of being better than others. It is a matter of being better than what we were before. Focus on your own growth, knowing that nobody in this planet is better than anybody else. We all emanate from the same Creative Life Source. We all have the mission of fulfilling our intended essence, and all we need in order to do so is available to us. Unfortunately that will not be possible when we feel superior to others. There is an old but true saying: We are all alike in the eyes of God. Let go of the need to feel superior, understand the presence of God in everyone. Do not judge people on their conquests, image, possessions or any other ego rating. When you project superiority feelings, you get back hostility and bitterness. Those feelings carry you away from the Source. Making a distinction leads to making comparisons, and it is based on seeing the other’s fault, it keeps looking for and exposing all the other’s faults.

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3. Let go of wanting to be right.

Ego is the route of many conflicts as it pushes us to judge others to be wrong. When someone is hostile there is a disconnection from the source. The Spirit of Creation is kind, generous, loving and receptive; it is free from anger, bitterness or hard feelings. To stop the need to be right in arguments or relationships is equivalent to saying to our ego: “I will not be your slave, I will be generous, I reject the need to be right.” Give yourself the opportunity to feel great by telling another person that she is right, and thank her for directing you to the true path.
When you stop wanting to be right, you strengthen the connection to the source. But remain alert as the ego is a very determined opponent. I have watched people end lovely relationships just due to their need to be right…When you find yourself in the middle of an argument, ask yourself: do I want to be right or do I want to be happy? If you choose to be happy, loving and spiritually aware, your connection to the source will strengthen and expand. The Universal Source will support you more and more so you can live the Creative life that is intended for you.

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2. Stop wanting to always win.

Our ego loves to classify us as either winners or losers. The search for victory is the infallible way to consciously avoid being in tune with intention. Why? Because it is basically impossible to always win. Some people might be faster, luckier, younger, stronger or even cleverer than you, and you will end up feeling insignificant and worthless near them.

Your worth is not measured according to the total sum of your victories. It is one thing to enjoy competition in a world where winning means everything; it is another thing is to identify yourself in your thoughts only with victory. There are no losers in a world where all share the same energy source. We can only say that your performance on a given day was at a certain level compared with that of others. But, everyday is a different day, with other competitors and new situations to be taken into account. You will always continue to be the infinite presence in a body which ages with time. Stop feeling the need to win at all times, do not accept the concept that not to win means to loose. That is the ego! That is an ego fear! If your body is not performing in a winning way, that is not important, do not identify yourself only with the ego. Be an observer, understand and enjoy everything without feeling the need to take the cup. Be at peace, tune in with the energy of intention, unexpectedly and without stress, victories will become a part of your path

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By Lucya Janeth Vervloet

These are suggestions on how to overcome and control deep rooted ego pride. It was written with the objective of preventing us from falsely identifying with our naturally proud ego. We are presenting a series of articles detailing this in seven easy steps.

1. Stop feeling easily offended.

Other people’s behaviour is not a good reason to make you feel immobilized and offended. Offense only exists if you let go of your own power and thus feel weak. If you look for situations which bother you, you will certainly find them around every corner. Ego is in charge trying to convince you that the world is all wrong. But it is possible for us to become life observant and tune in with the spirit of creation. We do not connect with our inner power or reach a peaceful state when we feel offended. Be at peace and remember you are part of the Creator, and the Creator is peace. To feel offended generates destructive energy and hurt, it leads to aggression, and ultimately to war.

"READY MADE"

Not being religious, I have always preferred to use my own words when addressing divinity. Although as a child I was encouraged to memorize most of the usual prayers and to recite them like a parrot, soon this felt very impersonal and I gave it up as a bad job.
It always reminded me of “fast food”…”fast praying”….”ready made”…
Despite that, I can not fail to recognize the beauty and wisdom woven in certain prayers, and I did hold on to some old favourites.
For instance:

The Serenity Prayer

God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference

EFFORT

I read somewhere: “I am happy purely out of laziness. To be unhappy requires a hell of a lot of an effort”. This is not just a cute sentence but a very deep truth.

Most people work from the concept that to do something well is hard work, to get higher school marks requires more effort and that in order to be happy in life it requires a great struggle.

It is true that to get the best marks at school you need to make an effort. But it is less of an effort than not to learn…

It is true that to do something well you need to make an effort. But it is less of an effort than to something in a shoddy way.

It is true we need to make an effort to be happy. But it is less of an effort than it would take to be unhappy.

Life flows and it has its own logic. We spend more energy trying to block that flow than what we need to spend to just flow with it.

We can think of the tree analogy (eg: a fruit tree). In order to grow and bear fruit this tree needs to make an effort to get its nutrients. If it doesn’t want to grow and bear fruits it will have to make double the effort to block its own nature, suffer by lacking nutrients in order to make itself weak. This means that the tree will have to waste much of its time and energy and go through much suffering all with the purpose of not growing and not bearing fruit…

Similar to what happens with humans. Imagine someone goes into a shop and it is badly attended to. Probably, this person will spend quite sometime thinking about the unpleasant circumstances, creating tension, generating fantasies and feeling irritated. What does this person achieve? Nothing. Is it enjoyable? No

The least effort is in doing things well. The least effort is in developing our capacities and gifts, and above all, to apply minimum effort means to flow in tune with Life